“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
Blessings beloved, I know some of you have been waiting patiently for part two of the bald head man story. Haha! But would you still marry him if he was bald and missing some teeth? So, here we go.

Years ago, a beautiful young lady came to me and shared that someone at work liked her. I knew everyone and couldn’t quite figure out who she was referring to. In my mind, I had a suspicion of who it was but said “No way” to myself. She wasn’t 100% certain about him and here’s why. Truthfully, he was very handsome and got lots of attention from the girls since he was so nice to look at. However, no one wanted to be with him because he had lost a bunch of teeth due to drugs over the years.

Let me tell you the truth ladies. I liked him and thought he was so handsome as well. He had an infectious smile, but once you saw his teeth you’d be like “Oh gosh, what in the world!” No way! Those teeth didn’t match that smile and cute face. Don’t think I’m harsh ladies because if not all, most of you would be skinning up your faces too. Any ways, that part of his life was over, and he just wanted to move on and live a normal life. So, one day my friend walked up to me and asked me what I really thought of him. And so, I quoted something I learnt from my mama. I said to her, “Darling girl, every pot has it’s matching lid.” I never discouraged her. She took it and ran with it. I was a bit shocked when I saw them walk in the next day. Ladies, all I could think of was his teeth, no lie. I was quite surprised when she shared with me that she and him just came from their dental appointment. Ladies, she took him to get his teeth fixed. I will always respect a woman like her.  She said, “Kacey, nothing is wrong with him. He’s a good man, and he has a good heart. He just wants someone to help him.” This reminds me of why God created us women in the first place.
 Genesis 2:18 
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him.  

So, she FIXED HIM UP! The sad part is, he left home at a young age to make a life for himself and lost his way in the process. How many of you would see past his missing teeth? Again, I want to make myself clear; I’m not encouraging any of you to go marry a bum. If they are working, have a purpose, and potential, don’t just look the other way if you observe a flaw in them.

Have a seat now ladies, this is where the story takes a surprising turn.

The following week, she walked in with a bling of a ring on her finger. I was like wow… girl. All It took for you to get a rock was just to have a bit of faith and a desire to fix a brother up.  Within a few month’s time they were M.A.R.R.I.E.D. One year from that they had a sweet baby.

I lost contact with her for approximately ten years, but then we reconnected. Yes, they’ve been happily married all that time, just incase you were wondering. They’re both entrepreneurs; she believes in his dreams of wanting to own his own business. When we reunited, she shared her story with me right away; how they wanted to move away from New York and in the middle of her move, she questioned her husband about the whereabouts of his folks. She did some research and made contacts and came to find out that her husband had inherited two beautiful homes from his grandmother who loved him very much; One home is on the countryside and the other one in the city.  She also left him a large sum of money in the bank! She had left him with an inheritance he knew nothing about.

My goodness. Somebody pinch me! This is what you call unexpected blessings in abundance. Who would have thought this how the story would end? I bawled tears of joy when she told me about his new-found life. She fell in love and married a toothless prodigal, and after she reunite him with his family, they came to find blessings waiting on the other side.

Sometimes we lose our way just like this young man. God still welcomes us home, cleans us up, and loves us nonetheless. Didn’t He welcome the prodigal in Luke 22?
But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. 24. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So, they began to celebrate.”

We should be very careful how we handle our blessings. Just because the blessing is presented and wrapped differently from what we have preconceived or expected, doesn’t mean it isn’t any good! As we all know, we should never judge a book by its cover.

May God richly bless and keep you, and help you to see how He sees. I pray that He will cause you to see beyond the person standing in front of you and catch a vision of the purpose.

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If God presents him certified bald, or almost bald, would it matter? Truth be told I loved princess D and her son Prince William. Wouldn’t you say he’s a fine man? God blessed lady Catherine who stole your heart. Come on now ladies, don’t be judging me, because we can all agree that the man is fine lol. Seriously now, am I the only one who thinks he’s adorable and cute? I bet lady Catherine didn’t know he would go bald that quickly. However, would she change her mind… Absolutely not!

The Lord brought something to my attention while I was in my ‘waiting season’. He said to meA lot more of my daughters would be married, but they have a preconceived notion, and they’ve put me in a box.” In our language, at times, “we can be too stuck up and picky.” He said to me that some of us ladies tend to look on the man from the outside and never stop to look or consider his heart. I must say, I’m guilty as charged.

Some time ago,  I got some bad news about one of my girlfriends who married a remarkable and handsome man. He ended up cheating on her and then turned and walked away from their marriage. Right away I prayed in my heart and asked the Lord to choose my spouse for me. “For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7).

Don’t think I’m any different from you, because I’m not. I like nice things and of course we want the cute guy. However,  it’s always important to know that’s looks aren’t everything. When Samuel went to look for David to anoint him as King over Israel, he would have never chosen David because  of his looks. Remember looks are deceiving and beauty is vain.

My Boaz finally came when I let go of my own will and came down off my high horse. “Sister’s please don’t think I’m saying that you should let your guard down, reverse your standards, or marry an ugly Boaz. “All I’m saying is allow God to choose for you a fine romantic guy.” Yes, I said it. God is the author of love and He writes the best love stories.

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”[Proverbs 3:5-6]

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